there are 2 things you shouldn't do without enough money

1. have children
2. get married

recently i've been receiving emails from a certain pro-blogger asking for sponsorship for wedding cards (i'm a part time wedding planner, plus my friend and i design + print fully customized wedding stationaries and letter press), to which i cannot help. we are not big printers, hence we cannot bear the overhead cost because both of us are starving designers with mortgage loaded on our shoulders. customizing = casting your own mold for each template block. specializing in customized card = not owning reusable blocks. each block will cost us about rm300-400. hence, no sponsorship for the pro-blogger couple. sorry mate.

i might have, you know. if the email sounded a bit more...how should i put it....

oh yes. polite, humble and well mannered?

not DEMANDING.



i was put off by his email correspondence which i decided not to reply and let it sink into the sea like the stones.

yes you are a pro-blogger. i understand. you want your wedding sponsored. well, i cannot really understand but i can try my best to digest. do you want your wedding sponsored just because you are the so-called pro-blogger? do you want your wedding sponsored because you don't have enough money (then have a small and cosy wedding!)? do you want your wedding sponsored because..just because...i don't know.

no thanks for the publicity. and no thanks for the exposure. call me weird. but no thanks. i'm getting more than i can handle on my own hands.

so.

you get your wedding sponsored. then you pocket the ang pows.

which means, your wedding then becomes a business transaction? because you are literally making money out of it.

wahlau. (at the point where YC uses wahlau, which she'll rather die, than to be caught dead using it, means she's ultimately flabbergasted beyond belief)

>_<

the ultimate came this morning. there are 3 things i do when i wake up each morning.

1. call him to get our morning greetings
2. check email
3. take a piss

i couldn't find my phone this morning. must have kicked my poor berryboy to the floor, so i switched on my laptop. i nearly puke blood onto my dear little vaio.

i received a list of stuff, which really put me off. maybe i'm too anal, because i was brought up to only ask if you really need to, and if you really need to, ask with extreme manners and never ever forget to say please, and thank you.

here's the brief email i received:

Hi all, we came out in the local papers last Friday
link removed to protect the couple from being bombarded by flock of my same thoughts

We still need sponsors for the following:
1. Wedding car - prefer SUV or MPV. Mercedes, Hyundai Tucson, etc
2. Wedding jewels
3. Wedding diamond ring - GIA stuff (wah. very demanding hor. kudos, at least u've done ur research)
4. Wedding shoes
5. Wedding tiara
6. Wedding cake
7. Mobile Entertainment setup - music,etc
8. Florist
9. More wedding favors

Cheers
XX (name removed for the above reason)



hello....???? where is the PLEASE? and THANK YOU?!

i don't see it.

cheers, is not thank you. maybe i'm too conservative. i do not accept cheers as thank you, unless i know you way too well, or that's if, and only if you're a true blue aussie (PR or migrants not acceptable).


if you don't want to spend so much money, then don't throw such an elaborated wedding. sign the papers, throw a small cozy party inviting family and close friends who matter and save heaps. (i still remember the night i accidentally crashed jit & mary's wedding party, and only found out years later they got married that night. i think that was when i first met unclekelvin)

wedding is overhyped nowadays. wedding is not about how elaborate and how WOW-zer it can get. have we all forgotten the true meaning behind the wedding?

it is about celebrating the union of 2 souls who can't live without each other.

it can be done in a mamak. anywhere.

(although i design wedding stationaries, plan weddings and even decorate wedding events, but i don't believe in throwing big weddings. i'll either elope, or have a free flow in mamak.)


sorry. i cannot digest. WTF should i sponsor your damn wedding????!!

on top of the 6 kids i'm sponsoring (which is almost killing me when i'm unemployed), WWF (not wrestling, the panda logo environmental lovings foundation la), homeless cats and dogs, a string of orphanage and old folk homes i try my best to help out financially, and the girl i pledge to help as much as i can, i am willing to help within my ability if you fall within any of the above categories.

and i don't see no wedding falling into the NEEDY category.

so NO.

in my case, sponsorship is for charity.

and no, your wedding is nothing close to charity.

sorry mate.


i know. money doesn't come easy too. hence, you want to save as much as you can right?

then throw a small wedding sans all the hoo-ha.

unless, you pledge to donate ALL the extra income from ang pow to charity, i'll gladly sponsor everything of the above mentioned (provided your angpow tips to the higher side of the 4 digit, all accounts and book keeping are done by me personally)

i said it. EVERYTHING.

x

there are cats, dogs, unloved children, sickly people in pain, unwanted old folks....etc waiting to be helped. what makes you think i'd rather throw in money for the so called exposure for sponsoring your wedding than to use that money to help them instead? what? to make money so i can help more needies?

i don't need this kind of bullshit.

x

ask, and you shall receive.

correct.

but sometimes asking too much is just........urgh.

x

well, this is just another one of those sunday morning episode from waking up on the wrong side of the bed. i'm anal. yes i am. if it came with a please or a thank you, i might consider it. you know...i just might.

ha. too late.